We leave a few lights on at night around our place. In the morning we sometimes see different types of moths that have flocked to the light. This one stuck to our kitchen window and did not move until one of our cats touched his back. I had a beautiful view of the inside of his wings. The different shades of brown and grey would have made him almost impossible to see if he were hanging on a tree. The window allowed me to get a close up shot. I have never been that close to the underside of a moth before, it was a different kind of beautiful.
Earlier this week I had an encounter with a teenager in a store. She was at that gangly stage, you know the one where she was still growing into her arms and legs. Her teeth had braces and she was a little self conscious like most teenage girls. She was shopping with her Mom and was apparently buying things for an art project. She stood for a few minutes looking at the various markers, and then looked at me. She asked if I knew anything about the markers and which ones I had used. I thought that was pretty bold for a teenager. We chatted for a couple minutes, then I asked her what she was making. She told me a little bit, and whole she spoke you could actually see her growing into the woman she would become. The creative person who was bold and fearless magically appeared before my eyes. She was drawn to the art supplies like a moth to the light. Only in this setting was I able to get a good look at who she was underneath it all.
We are all becoming everyday. We are learning, growing, changing all the time. We are never done until we die…or if we are done then we have died inside and our bodies are just waiting to catch up. This teenage girl and the moth reminded me that the world only sees a portion of who we really are. They see the outwardly visible things not our soul, our passions, our dreams, our desires. Most people see our outsides, few see our underneath and who we are becoming. Maybe the world doesn’t look beyond our outsides. Maybe we only show the outside because that is the easiest part. Showing the underneath takes effort, care, and people have to get past all our gangliness.
We miss so much of people if we only know them from one perspective. If we judge them from their outsides and make assumptions about who they are by what we see. It takes time and effort to get to know the person underneath it all. But it is so worth it to get close, learn, and watch the magic of life happen. Whether it is art supplies or an outside light, take time this week to get to know someone better by seeing who they are underneath it all.