When areas get renovated or rebuilt, they put scaffolding up first. It surrounds the space and provides support for those doing the work. It also warns those passing by that danger is close, be careful, and stay alert. Wouldn’t it be great if people had scaffolding around them to let us know when work is in progress?
Sometimes we interact with people and find out quickly that they are under construction. They are learning lessons and in the process of becoming…becoming who they want to be, who they need to be, and who they hoped they would become when they dreamed about their future back in kindergarten. It can be messy and uncomfortable interacting with people in the process of becoming. It can be unpredictable and leave you confused. They don’t mean to hurt, yet they simply may not know how to handle all the change. They do not mean to communicate poorly, they simply have not compiled the skills needed to let you know what is inside their heart or mind. It comes out all wrong and jumbled. People in process also do not realize how their actions impact others. They are barely able to understand themselves, let alone interact appropriately with the rest of us.
The real truth is we are all under construction at one time or another in this journey called life…or at least I hope we are. New situations and new relationships allow us to learn more about ourselves and how to become better, stronger, kinder, gentler, more empathetic. Unfortunately many times the only way to learn these life skills is by failing first. Which means someone else may get hurt while we learn our lessons. By facing our failures and shortcomings we open the door to accomplishment. We learn what works and what doesn’t, then we try again. If we had scaffolding around us to let the public know of an impending construction zone maybe fewer people would be confused, hurt, or left uncertain. Scaffolding would also protect us from ourselves.
How boring would life be if we knew it all and learned nothing new? Learning is part of growing, yet growing can be painful. How much easier would it be if scaffolding outlined our areas under construction and protected everyone from harm. Then again, some of my best learning moments in life were the ones where I got hurt…I have never forgotten them, or made that same mistake again. Scaffolding or no scaffolding, construction usually ends with a things of beauty. So the hardship, missed steps and confusion are worth it.