Some people in or lives serve as sandpaper. They smooth our rough edges and help prepare us for the future. They may seem annoying or bother us, or push us outside of our comfort zones…and yet they serve an important purpose. They are the vehicle for us to get better at who we are and what we do. They are the ones who disagree with us and challenges us to act and think better. They are the ones who call us on our thinking and make us prove ourselves. They force us to raise the bar.
Working with Sandpaper people can be frustrating. They will rub you the wrong way. They will disagree with you and disagree with what you think is true. They will be blunt or directive, and will show you things about yourself that need to be changed. They leave us in pain or at least make us question ourselves and our beliefs. And just when we think we are ‘done’, they come back again to finish the job. They keep sanding and improving us, pushing us more and more. They help us refine who we are and who we want to become.
The other side of this is that you need to be a Sandpaper person for someone else. You need to invest in the development of others and help them get better. That doesn’t mean telling them what to do or how to do it. It means questioning them on what they believe, why they do what they do, and what is preventing them from moving towards what they want. Sandpaper people care enough to be rough, and tough, and gentle enough for people to grow and change. It is through strife and challenges that we become better. Without struggle or rough times we would not know the limits of ourselves. We would not be ablet to see the beauty within.
So today give thanks for your Sandpaper People. Listen to them, respect what they are working with you to do. And give back to someone else who might need their rough edges sanded down in order to bring out the beauty and strength within. It is the Sanndpaper people who make us all look our best.